it's how you say it
One should learn from mistakes. And preferably not just from one's own mistakes, but also from the mistakes of others. Today, I was reprimanded in a completely inappropriate and unjustified manner. Actually, the sister only wanted to remind me of something, or ask if I had thought about it. Instead, assuming that I had forgotten (which wasn't the case this time), a thunderstorm descended upon me. This made it clear to me again how much what we say depends not only on the content but also on the packaging.
One should really always be aware of how important it is to say what one wants to say in an appropriate manner. That means at an appropriate time, with appropriate words and an appropriate tone. Because it makes a huge difference whether I kindly point something out to someone or loudly scold them for the same thing.
The friendly tone will not only be better for the person being addressed, who can accept the criticism much more easily this way, but also for me, as I act more thoughtfully and fairly. Not to mention the general mood and atmosphere.
This seems to be an important aspect, especially in the monastery. We live together in close quarters and must maintain a healthy and benevolent interaction with each other. First, because we are encouraged by the Gospel, according to which we want to live, to do our best for peace. But also simply because we cannot live and breathe in a poisoned atmosphere.
Well, unfortunately, none of us is perfect, and we often react differently than we might have wanted to. So there are problems everywhere, but never a reason to give up and stop striving for our ideals.
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